New book from Focus on the Family teaches women that being cheated on is their fault.

By |2019-08-01T08:37:52-08:00August 1st, 2019|Categories: News|Tags: , , , , , , |13 Comments

Women might want to put a bite guard in before reading this so they do not grind their teeth into chalkdust. 

Courtesy of The Friendly Atheist

The title says it all: How God Used “the Other Woman”: Saving Your Marriage after Infidelity. The book, by marriage counselor (!!!) Tina Konkin, is all about how you should respond to discovering your partner is having an affair by… taking a long hard look at your own flaws.

The book’s description is something no decent therapist would ever suggest:

“Tina Konkin was devastated when she learned her husband was having an affair with her best friend. How could this happen to a couple who were Christian marriage counselors? But the surprises didn’t stop there, because God immediately asked Tina this question: “What role did you play in this, Tina?”

That question and Tina’s willingness to answer it led to a restored, renewed marriage that was better than ever before, as well as a marriage counseling program that has an 80-percent success rate.”

In How the Other Woman Saved My Marriage, you’ll hear the author’s amazing story of redemption and discover proven tools for restoring and improving a marriage, even after infidelity.

The actual text of the book doesn’t get any better. Here’s just one excerpt of how Konkin blames herself after her husband’s decision:

“As I stood in front of that mirror, my reflection gazing back at me, I heard God’s voice loud and clear. I knew I had a choice to make. I could choose to stay in a “victim mode.” blaming everything on my husband and the “other woman,” or I could decide to shed the victim cloak and start exploring my part in this mess…”

“It was time for me to look at all the negative stuff I’d dragged into my marriage. I have to admit, though, that the question God was asking me was so difficult that I had to brace myself for what I would see. The thought that I had, in any way, participated in the affair or the degradation of my own marriage was like an emotional foreign invader. Holding this question in my mind elicited a nauseous gut reaction. It was almost too much to take. But one of the principles I had learned in working with hundreds of people on a very personal level was that the way out of this mess wouldn’t include blaming my husband or friend…”

Yes ladies, if you will simply accept the blame for your husband’s infidelity and stop checking up on him when he is a few hours late, you will have a happy, purely submissive Christian marriage. 

I think it is way past time for women to recognize that all of the Abrahamic religions were developed to blame them for all of the world’s ills and allow men to dominate them. 

I firmly believe that women who take their children to mosques, synagogues, or churches are suffering from Stockholm syndrome and do not realize they are enabling their captors to not only continue to keep them imprisoned in a religion that disrespects their rights, but also to help indoctrinate new generations who will continue to spread these thinking errors for decades to come. 

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  1. Anonymous August 1, 2019 at 3:11 am

    Showing my age, but these were the coffee commercials of my youth:

  2. Nonnie Mouse August 1, 2019 at 8:24 am

    My parents were married 56 years until my Mom died. Lutheran, we were in church every Sunday dressed in our finest; what a good Christian family. Then we came home.
    Why I won’t watch the debates or any kind of political round table discussions. Throw in ESPN sports programming know-it-alls. The screaming over each other.
    PTSD? Bullshit, it’s the new accepted excuse for any behavior.

    I DID have to look at myself when my husband became disabled in 2014. Even my being the bigger breadwinner, we were equals, and it was REALLY up to me now.
    Life doesn’t promise any of us anything. Want to whine? Build yourself a bridge and get over it.

  3. anon August 1, 2019 at 8:32 am

    Also too and, according to that picture (and in the spirit of the ignorance of the “author”) she has another fault: she is non-white.

    • Anonymous August 1, 2019 at 8:57 am


      • SARAH'S WIG HAS RATS August 2, 2019 at 1:29 am

        Lay off the fast food so your brain can read.

  4. Anonymous August 1, 2019 at 8:48 am

    Maybe that’s the HUGE presser that “supposed” cousin alluded to last night debate thread.
    Boopsie is now president and CEO of Focus On The Family.
    OH, would I HOOT!

  5. Anonymous August 1, 2019 at 11:16 am

    How many decades since “Love, honor, and obey” were taken out of marriage vows?? Asking for a friend.

  6. puck August 1, 2019 at 1:53 pm

    pat robertson said -on tv- thatit is ok to cheat on your wife if she is ugly. what if the man is ugly and dirty and nasty-she can’t cheat on him. this was very clear. i hate him to beyond hate. all those tv preachers they only want your money.

  7. Josh August 1, 2019 at 2:36 pm

    So if the wife cheats, then it’s the husband’s fault, right?

  8. puck August 1, 2019 at 11:19 pm

    nope, Josh. in that mind set men are never wrong.

  9. Open Minded August 3, 2019 at 5:27 pm

    Gryphen, you are blinded by your hatred of religion, which seems more visceral than rational. You’re motivated by confirmation bias to consistently go after the low-hanging fruit, as if you’re unfamiliar with any strong women who are also religious.

    Don’t tell Michelle Obama, Nancy Pelosi, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, Ilhan Omar, Rashida Tlaib, Melinda Gates, Elizabeth Warren, Hillary Clinton, (and many more powerful women) that religion is holding them back and subjugating them to men. They might laugh, or they might give you a mini-lecture explaining how wrong you are.

    Going back a bit in history, Rosa Parks, Sojourner Truth, Florence Nightingale, Harriet Tubman, Flannery O’Connor–all are examples of high-achieving women who were inspired and strengthened by their faith.

    You’re free to be as atheist as you want. No reasonable person will object. But you need to be called out when you make sweeping negative generalities that are not supported by facts. Stick to the the story you’re posting about and leave it at that. Better yet, take the blinkers off and do a little of your own research before you make preposterous statements.

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