Women might want to put a bite guard in before reading this so they do not grind their teeth into chalkdust.
Courtesy of The Friendly Atheist:
The title says it all: How God Used “the Other Woman”: Saving Your Marriage after Infidelity. The book, by marriage counselor (!!!) Tina Konkin, is all about how you should respond to discovering your partner is having an affair by… taking a long hard look at your own flaws.
The book’s description is something no decent therapist would ever suggest:
“Tina Konkin was devastated when she learned her husband was having an affair with her best friend. How could this happen to a couple who were Christian marriage counselors? But the surprises didn’t stop there, because God immediately asked Tina this question: “What role did you play in this, Tina?”
That question and Tina’s willingness to answer it led to a restored, renewed marriage that was better than ever before, as well as a marriage counseling program that has an 80-percent success rate.”
In How the Other Woman Saved My Marriage, you’ll hear the author’s amazing story of redemption and discover proven tools for restoring and improving a marriage, even after infidelity.
The actual text of the book doesn’t get any better. Here’s just one excerpt of how Konkin blames herself after her husband’s decision:
“As I stood in front of that mirror, my reflection gazing back at me, I heard God’s voice loud and clear. I knew I had a choice to make. I could choose to stay in a “victim mode.” blaming everything on my husband and the “other woman,” or I could decide to shed the victim cloak and start exploring my part in this mess…”
“It was time for me to look at all the negative stuff I’d dragged into my marriage. I have to admit, though, that the question God was asking me was so difficult that I had to brace myself for what I would see. The thought that I had, in any way, participated in the affair or the degradation of my own marriage was like an emotional foreign invader. Holding this question in my mind elicited a nauseous gut reaction. It was almost too much to take. But one of the principles I had learned in working with hundreds of people on a very personal level was that the way out of this mess wouldn’t include blaming my husband or friend…”
Yes ladies, if you will simply accept the blame for your husband’s infidelity and stop checking up on him when he is a few hours late, you will have a happy, purely submissive Christian marriage.
I think it is way past time for women to recognize that all of the Abrahamic religions were developed to blame them for all of the world’s ills and allow men to dominate them.
I firmly believe that women who take their children to mosques, synagogues, or churches are suffering from Stockholm syndrome and do not realize they are enabling their captors to not only continue to keep them imprisoned in a religion that disrespects their rights, but also to help indoctrinate new generations who will continue to spread these thinking errors for decades to come.